Sometimes we won't understand if someone spoke to us this way because there are a myriad of other things in play when we speak to one another such as our facial expressions, tones, body language etc., that only add fuel to fire or makes things go on an unnecessary and/or damaging tangent.
When written down there is only our own assumptions of tone so we can pause to think about if they truly meant it that way!
So I hope everyone reading this takes a minute to review themselves and also pause before they think or speak next time.
People are so often so full of judgement and prejudices but do not pause to even consider the possibility of being so.
Sometimes they are so naive about it that it baffles the hell out of me as to how they can assume such things and be unaware of the fact that they are only "assuming" and it is not the truth.
Other times they are so adamant or arrogant about it or at the very least confident about their assumed facts that I am left amused and angry at the same time.
Get out of your heads people and pause before you speak or act!! Really!!
The other thing I find annoying is the fact that people can't let their younger ones make their own mistakes and learn.
They must "correct/help" them... But please! The best parent is the one that stays around, watches you make mistakes & learn from those but doesn't say "I told you so"!
The one that gives a pat on the back and says I learnt it the hard way too, you are only so much stronger for it now!
Of course it all comes down to individuals but most mature young ones expect this treatment and the more you treat them this way from earlier on, the more they learn to be on their own and evolve to learn from their mistakes, isn't it?
Young people need others to have faith and confidence in them! Give them that and they will be thankful to you for it forever.
I am learning of such mistakes I made myself too - of assumptions, judgement and handholding - that I did to a lot of people that had the misfortune of being "under" me or "younger" than me, and I just want to say sorry for being an ASS :)
When written down there is only our own assumptions of tone so we can pause to think about if they truly meant it that way!
So I hope everyone reading this takes a minute to review themselves and also pause before they think or speak next time.
People are so often so full of judgement and prejudices but do not pause to even consider the possibility of being so.
Sometimes they are so naive about it that it baffles the hell out of me as to how they can assume such things and be unaware of the fact that they are only "assuming" and it is not the truth.
Other times they are so adamant or arrogant about it or at the very least confident about their assumed facts that I am left amused and angry at the same time.
Get out of your heads people and pause before you speak or act!! Really!!
The other thing I find annoying is the fact that people can't let their younger ones make their own mistakes and learn.
They must "correct/help" them... But please! The best parent is the one that stays around, watches you make mistakes & learn from those but doesn't say "I told you so"!
The one that gives a pat on the back and says I learnt it the hard way too, you are only so much stronger for it now!
Of course it all comes down to individuals but most mature young ones expect this treatment and the more you treat them this way from earlier on, the more they learn to be on their own and evolve to learn from their mistakes, isn't it?
Young people need others to have faith and confidence in them! Give them that and they will be thankful to you for it forever.
I am learning of such mistakes I made myself too - of assumptions, judgement and handholding - that I did to a lot of people that had the misfortune of being "under" me or "younger" than me, and I just want to say sorry for being an ASS :)
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